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I’m Now Facing What I Avoided for 16 Years

The Fine Art of Avoidance
There are a lot of good quotes out there about avoidance. Here are a few:
“You cannot find peace by avoiding life.” – Virginia Woolf

“You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.” — Abraham Lincoln

“The best way out is always through.” — Robert Frost

If avoidance can be […]

By |August 27th, 2026|Current Events|0 Comments

Just Retired; the Future Stretches Ahead

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Summer
I have been retired now for about 7 weeks from the University where I worked for almost 4 years (after selling our business). I worked my last day on a Friday at the end of May then got on a plane to Amsterdam on […]

By |August 14th, 2026|Current Events|Comments Off on Just Retired; the Future Stretches Ahead

New Year, New Beginnings for my Trans Daughter

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This is the blog that I have put off writing since last September.
Last Fall
I took two weeks of intermittent FMLA (work leave) in early September 2024 when I flew across the country with my trans daughter to be her caretaker following […]

By |January 21st, 2025|Current Events|Comments Off on New Year, New Beginnings for my Trans Daughter

Youngest Daughter’s 28th; I Allowed Myself One Day of “Sad”

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Yesterday
It was my younger daughter’s 28th birthday yesterday. I sent a “Happy Birthday wherever you are” message to what used to be her email address, the only form of contact (maybe) I have for her. Even that email contact […]

By |August 24th, 2024|Current Events|Comments Off on Youngest Daughter’s 28th; I Allowed Myself One Day of “Sad”

Boundaries with Incarcerated Sociopathic Daughter

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Norman Rockwell Paintings

I love Norman Rockwell paintings. I fully realize that they are the quintessential “Americana” portraits of life in the early to mid-twentieth century and as such are an idealized version of family life. Still, there is […]

By |August 4th, 2024|Viewpoint|Comments Off on Boundaries with Incarcerated Sociopathic Daughter

My Daughter is a Sociopath, Part 2

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I chose the title image as it shows the relationship I think we all want with our daughters. The young daughter gives a gift of a pretty flower she picked just for her mom. The mom joyfully drops down to her daughter’s level to receive the […]

By |July 29th, 2024|Current Events|Comments Off on My Daughter is a Sociopath, Part 2

My Daughter is a Sociopath

Title image: Flickr “Fact Check” is licensed under CC BY 2.0

My daughter is a Sociopath. I have been thinking about that word a lot lately, as if “sociopath” is a math problem that if I just concentrate long enough on, I can solve.

What does “sociopath” even mean? What does the label mean in terms […]

By |July 11th, 2024|Viewpoint|Comments Off on My Daughter is a Sociopath

Portland Getaway

Photos taken by author
My blogs have been rather dark lately, so I am going to talk about a recent vacation instead. It was both an anniversary celebration and a fun “getaway” to Portland, a city that neither my husband and I had ever been to. Though I work hard to remain anonymous in this […]

By |June 23rd, 2024|Current Events|Comments Off on Portland Getaway

Ten Year Sentence – Mother’s Day Reflections

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The last time I wrote a blog (two weeks ago), I sat in a coffee shop and wrote while my daughter was being sentenced to prison in another state. I found out the details several days later when the sentence was posted online. This is […]

By |May 12th, 2024|Current Events|Comments Off on Ten Year Sentence – Mother’s Day Reflections

That’s Life: Same Day…Sentencing and a Birthday

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I should be at work but have taken the day off as part of a plan to get through a difficult day, like mentally preparing for the labor of delivering a baby. Labor is not at all fun but breathing through it […]

By |April 22nd, 2024|Current Events|Comments Off on That’s Life: Same Day…Sentencing and a Birthday