It is a well-known fact in my family that I rarely go to my Facebook page so to “friend” or “unfriend” me is rather a moot point.  Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and all that…I am completely clueless how that all works.  Come to think of it, I really am rather social media challenged.

041716 Free image engagement ring on hand for Engaged blogI bring this up as I found out this week that my “on the run” daughter has blocked me on Facebook.  In addition, she has systematically blocked her dad, siblings, my sisters, our friends that know her and anyone else that remotely might be able to tell us what she is posting.  She missed one though.  The older sister of a friend of my daughter saw an Instagram posting and let my younger daughter know that she saw an engagement picture.  We asked for a screenshot of the picture but by the time the friend looked again, she had been blocked as well.  We managed to get a picture though and through some comparing notes, we are pretty sure we know the first name and a bit about him.

We are extremely concerned.  If this fiancé is who we think he is, he is a single dad with a 4 year girl.  This person is in extreme danger of getting his bank account drained and his credit cards abused.  If they actually marry before my daughter is caught, he could end up with a hoard of creditors after him that would look like a Verizon commercial.

It appears that this person came into my daughter’s life around December.  I am unsure what he knows about her background and I am going to guess little if anything.  I am sure that he thinks he has found a soulmate and a mom for his little girl.  He has no idea.

If a posting that my daughter did on a “mommy site” can be believed, she is pregnant again and planning to marry this young man in May.  That would mean that she had her third baby in mid-January and got pregnant with this person since then.  I think she is letting herself get pregnant on purpose to trap young men into taking care of her, plus any financial gain from giving the baby up for adoption…though in this case I suppose she is thinking that she will be a family and raise the baby.  This is way out of character for my daughter who thrives on attention and risk and impulsive behavior.  I wonder if the whole “taking care of a baby and a husband and being a step mom to a child” scenario could be appealing to her because she thinks she will somehow change her name and continue avoiding the law.  I am speculating.

The bottom line is that my daughter needs to be caught before she harms this single dad and daughter.  This young man needs to be protected from her but for right now, we have only a first name, not enough to find him.  It’s a predicament…like watching a story unfold that you know you need to stop but don’t know how.

My daughter texted me late last night and we have exchanged a few texts since then. She said “Just wanted you to know I love you and miss you”.  I was in a quandary as to how to answer.  “Love you too”?  “Love you too but I know you are on the run and suggest you turn yourself in”?  I chose a form of the latter.  I think the advice is being ignored.