The Long Road to the Cliff Edge

In my last blog, I talked about finding out that my daughter was facing charges for theft, probably felony theft. If prison is the cliff edge, there was a long road that led her to that edge. At many points in time there were crossroads. She could have turned off that dangerous path and […]

By |September 28th, 2014|Snapshot (the Past)|Comments Off on The Long Road to the Cliff Edge

Falling Off a Cliff Edge and Looking for Grace

There is a metaphorical cliff edge that I have been trying to keep my daughter away from for 8 years now, since she was twelve years old and we realized that she was stealing…prison. I see the cliff edge looming now just up ahead. It’s an abyss; it’s dark, there are ugly sharp rocks […]

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Why Me? Why Our Family?

Twenty years ago this month in Seoul, Korea at the adoption center offices, I helped dress my new daughter in a soft green and white striped outfit. At 4 months old, she was embarking on a huge adjustment…leaving behind forever the foster mother who had cared for her since birth, her country, her culture, […]

By |September 14th, 2014|Snapshot (the Past)|Comments Off on Why Me? Why Our Family?

Perfect Kids: The Cruel Illusion, Part 2

At the conclusion of my last post, I made this comment…
I think babies should come with a placard that says “Remember, this baby is unique and is his/her own person, not to be confused with a clone of what you are or wish you were.”
I have been thinking about that comment and how clueless […]

By |September 12th, 2014|Viewpoint|Comments Off on Perfect Kids: The Cruel Illusion, Part 2

Perfect Parenting: The Cruel Illusion, Part 1

I recently picked up a dear friend’s daughter at the airport and took her to the University where she has started school this Fall. I have known her since she was 3 years old. She is a wonderful combination of attractive looks tempered with fun yet modest dress, a lively curiosity and genuine love […]

By |August 31st, 2014|Viewpoint|Comments Off on Perfect Parenting: The Cruel Illusion, Part 1

Are You Borrowing Trouble from the Future?

Here I am beginning to blog about emotions and how to use them in a positive productive way and I have been stewing all week about my daughter.   I think that is equivalent to about a C- in the Better direction.  My husband said “Bitter to Better” to me twice this week.  I think […]

By |August 10th, 2014|Current Events|Comments Off on Are You Borrowing Trouble from the Future?

When Parenting Hurts…Turn Bitter to Better

Why write a blog about moving from Bitter to Better? Why admit online that I have been bitter?

The idea for this blog slowly developed over this past year. Beginning last summer, a realization slowly dawned on my consciousness like the first almost imperceptible rays of a sunrise lightening a nighttime sky. I realized that ever so gradually over many years of fighting for my daughter’s mental and behavioral health (see “My Story”), I had allowed emotional pain to turn me into someone who was inwardly bitter.

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By |July 13th, 2014|Snapshot (the Past)|Comments Off on When Parenting Hurts…Turn Bitter to Better